straight to the points.
1.Emotional Immaturity.Emotionally immature people are the hardest to
deal with. They can be extremely challenging, because they lack the
ability to see life clearly and accurately, and to deal with it. They
lack the ability to handle anger, disappointment, guilt, resentment,
fear, jealousy, disappointment, grief, insecurity, and a myriad of
other feelings appropriately.
2.s*x Before Marriage.Research using brain scans now shows powerful
chemicals are released during s*x that should create a powerful,
"During s*x with a men, women's brain secretes oxytocin that causes
them to bond emotionally to that man. This chemical is so overwhelming
in a woman's brain that just a 20-second hug can cause a female to
become bonded to a male.
Both sexes get addictive doses of the pleasure-chemical dopamine that
works out well for couples out to create lifelong marriages and stable
families but the bonding, which acts like adhesive tape is weakened
when people tear away power by breaking off with a sexual partner and
moving on from one to another to another.
This destroys the ability to bond with one's spouse permanently
because the brain actually gets molded to not accept that deep
emotional level that's so important for marriage.
3.Feminism.These movement have successfully convinced some ladies that
our mothers, grandmothers and great-grands were like slaves in their
marriage. It has also convinced them that males are animals and
women-beaters so any time there is a little misunderstanding in a
marriage, the negative instinct that these teaching installed in the
ladies will alert them that the animal is about to attack and whatever
defense mechanism they have developed will be applied in full force.
This is why many little misunderstandings ends in a fight.
4.Wrong Foundation.Anything build on a wrong foundation will not last.
Most marriages fail not because the people involved are not willing to
make it work but because it was built on a wrong foundation. Example
of these foundations is "My Pastor or Prophet Said". Sometimes people
marry because of a pastor's vision, prophecy or their own dream
instead of because of love.
Secondly women do meet their their pastors prophet or whoever they
have as a spiritual father for special prayers, jazz or concoctions
that will help them get a guy. Likewise guys, they meet these thieves
also for jazz or concoction. Such marriage dies once the jazz wears
5.Putting Our Wants first Before Our Needs.We lack seriously here, We
do not take time to know what our partner really needs. Ofcourse every
body wants to live in large house, ride nice car, go on vacations etc
but first; humans needs to be loved, cared for, appreciated,
respected, listened to, etc. When you are busy chasing after the
wants, your partner is likely to fall for whoever satisfies his or her
6.Copying Others and Listening To Their Advice.A marriage is doomed to
fail once we start listening to the advice of outsiders or copying
them. When you listen to foolish advices on your relationship from a
friend whose sole objective maybe to destroy your marriage or from a
man hater or woman hater, you will cease to love your partner.
You will start tearing him/her down with you words. Respect in the
marriage will jump the fence, seeking his/her opinion on an issue
becomes unncesarry because his/her judgment cannot be trusted by you.
7.Not Setting Priorities Right, Not Researching Background and Wrong
Mindset.People no longer make working with their spouse to get a good
family their priority.
Secondly some don't research their family backgrounds to know about
his/her family. They act based on love for the guy or girl. A family's
background such as honesty, integrity, modesty and other good morals
should be considered before tying the knot.
Finally there are some who see marriage as a rest zone. A never ending
party where their partner will also do things that will please them.
They are always looking for easy comfort. If there is a little
problem, they just quit, no effort to resolve the issue.
I Know Of Other Things Like, Lies, Cheating, Beating, drunkeness, lack
of trust, Marrying just to be married or seen as a married person etc
but those things are expected when you are running fast in a wrong
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