Think your natural-born bashful tendencies are keeping you single?
Think again. While you may sometimes feel anxious, uncertain, and/or
insecure when it comes to dating, the truth is that the right kind of
woman will appreciate your unassuming ways.
When in doubt, the following five tips should help ease your dating
anxiety and help you ultimately woo the woman of your dreams.
1. Fake it Till you Make It
Not to get all Dr. Phil on you, but the good doctor's got a point. If
you're a shy guy, you'll need to start projecting self-confidence when
dealing with women, even if you don't fully feel it yet. Keep in mind,
confidence is different than bragging and boasting.
A confident man can comfortably make eye contact with a cute stranger,
offer a friendly smile, and strike up a casual conversation without
seeming phony or full of himself. If the idea of approaching a woman
you don't know feels overwhelming, take it slow. Practice making and
maintaining eye contact with a member of the opposite s€x everyday for
a week. The following week, add a friendly smile to your efforts. Once
that feels natural, start saying hello. It's true what they say—
practice makes perfect, so the more you putt hese new behaviors into
practice, the more natural they'll become. By the time you meet
someone amazing, you'll be ready, willing, and able to confidently and
comfortably ask her out.
2. Retrain your Brain
If your beliefs about dating have been largely negative, it's time to
retrain your brain. The past is the past. Let go of any dating
disappointments and other drama you've experienced. Believe that
future dating success is possible for you. By thinking positively, you
engage the law of attraction.
In turn, you start attracting healthy, happy, confident women into
your life. When in doubt, practice the following exercise. Every
morning when you wake up, and also right before you go to bed, say to
yourself, "Dating is…" and fill in the blank. Examples include "Dating
is easy," "Dating is fun," "Dating is abundant," etc. The key is to
retrain your brain until you actually embrace your new belief system.
Once you do, you'll be surprised at how easily you'll attract members
of the opposite s€x.
3. Be your Best Self
Just as you should fake confidence and retrain your brain, you should
also strive to become your best self. How? By looking, acting, and
talking as though you know who you really are and that you are
comfortable in your own skin.This, too, can take time to implement.
Day by day, work toward becoming the best version of yourself.
If that means joining a gym to lose a couple of pounds, splurging on a
few stylish new wardrobe pieces that make you feel better about
yourself, and/or taking a class on presenting with confidence, go for
it. Women are drawn to men who genuinely seem to like themselves
without being boastful or arrogant.
4. Take an Interest in Her
Not comfortable talking about yourself when you meet someone new?
Engage her inconversation! First of all, your interest in her and her
life will be a refreshing change of pace from all the other
self-absorbed guys she's ever dated. Second, women like to feel
interesting, desirable, and/or intriguing to men during the courtship
process. By giving her the green light to open up and share, she'll
feel more attractive and in turn be more inclined to let you into her
5. Embrace your Shyness
Okay, this next piece of advice may feel counter intuitive to
everything else included in this article. But here's the deal: women
dig men who are inherently humble. As a shy guy, you have the
advantage of not possessing boastful or arrogant genes. So while you
may need to work on your level of self-comfort and confidence to get a
woman's attention, always remember that your natural-born bashful
tendencies will be appreciated by the right woman. Instead of
apologizing for being shy, embrace it, work with it, and be yourself.
While there are some women out there in the dating trenches who are
addicted to chasing bad boys, there are plenty of other healthy and
happy women who are ready, willing, and able to appreciate a good man.
As a shy guy, it's up to you to get out there, practice your personal
dating and flirting style, and make yourself available to these
amazing women. They are out there. It's up to you to do the work,
become your most confident self, and play to your inherent strengths.
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